Girls. Complicated?

Just the other day, a friend of mine complained “Girls are complicated. First they want you to work hard and earn more money. But then when you work hard, they complain that you don’t spend enough time with them.”

At that point, I just keep quiet, not knowing whether to defend my own species or agree that girls are extremely complicated beings. And then I realize… Girls are not so complicated. It’s just that God made us differently from guys and the way we think and feel are much different.

My guy friends always tell me that the minds of girls are very complicated and it is not easy understanding them. Girls say something but mean another thing. They tell you they don’t want something, but deep inside they want it so badly. Why on earth girls cannot say whatever they want to instead of trying to make guys read their mind? They would all give a big SIGH…

So guys, here’s a lesson for you on how to lessen your girlfriend’s complain about the amount of time you spend with her and girls, here how to make your boyfie’s life easier.

# 1. Set aside 1 or 2 days a week just for yourselves. It’s because some weeks, things will get so busy and everything is extremely important or urgent and you gotta handle it or you are going to lose the customer and your boss will fire you, that kinda thing.. and before you know it, it’s too late and you might even lose her to someone who will appreciate her more. Remember that this means no interruptions from friends, parents, phone calls, emails, fax, etc… Believe me, it’s worth it. It doesn’t matter if it’s just yam char-ing at the mamak or catching a movie. What matters is that you set a time just for you both and please guys, make sure you spend that time with her and not with your phone or work.

#2. Quality, not quantity. I know. I know. Lots of people know it but not many people follows. Please, spend quality time with each other. Guys, there is no point in taking her for movies every single day of the week when you are not really there with her. If you are not “there”, don’t bother taking her out at all. You’ll be wasting your time and money. Girls are sensitive. They know when you are not there with them. Physically yes but mentally no. Be with her when you are with her and not a thousand miles away. That is what matters to us.

#3. Prioritize. I’m not saying that you prioritize your life. E.g. God, loved ones, finance…. (Please do it if you have not). But in your list of to-dos, you can do that. Some things can be put aside first. Determine what is urgent and important, what is urgent but not important, what is not urgent but important and what is not urgent and not important. If you have a very understanding girlfriend, then good for you. If not, prioritizing will take you a long way.

#4. Talk with each other. Girls are not that complicated, and neither are guys. All you got to do is learn to listen to the other when they talk. Really listen to what they are trying to say. Try to hear the 3rd conversation going on in their minds. And put yourselves in their shoes. I always believe that a couple should always talk to each other A LOT. Really really sit down and talk. Not just spend your time together watching movies or making out. Talking bonds people and build a better relationship.

I’ve said my part and I hope that it may help you in your relationship. And now it’s your turn to do something.

My final piece of advice,

Girls, please be MORE understanding and LESS demanding.

And guys keep in mind that making money is NOT everything. *at least to most girls :p

Toodles,
~es~

2010 is here.

“OH NO!!! School is starting soon!” My brother and sister have been moaning for the whole week. Not forgetting my mum who complains that she have to start worrying about food and transport and homework and whatnot. And the extra traffic jams in the morning. It’s finally backed to the real world everyone! Christmas season is over. Holidays are over. No more parties, late nights, presents, loads of food.

It’s a brand new year!

I like new years. I like setting resolutions. I know some may think that resolutions are a bunch of crap and it’s not like you will follow it after awhile. But I like setting my own resolutions. Without fail every year, I’ll write my resolutions. It’s not always that I achieved my resolutions. Sometimes at the end of the year, I’ll look back and sigh with dismay that I have not done anything. But setting resolutions gave me a goal, a direction that I can focus on and that at the end of the year, I can look back I feel the satisfaction of having done something in my life. Don’t ever let this happen to you; when one day, you stop and realize that your life has passed you by and that you have not accomplished anything yet.

So for all those people out there who are having the Monday blues, here’s something for you to read “2010.Grow Up.”

And then get started on your resolutions. I’ve done mine..

~es~

Weddings Jitters…

Ohhh, how I love weddings! The thrill and giggles and the love-in-the-air feeling..

Here’s our checklist,

1. Bridal shower – Check. Just had it yesterday.. hehe.. Nope, no naughty pictures to show ;p

2. Bridemaid dress – Check

3. Make-up – Check

4. Hair-do – Check

5. Flowers – Check

6. Pedicures & Manicures – Check

7. Shoes – Ch…. OH WAIT!! No shoes yet..

Sigh, so many things to do, so little time.. But its OK. After all, weddings are once in a lifetime event..

Wish me luck in being the best bridesmaid ever..

Toodles people.. off to get my shoes now…

Oh wait, I just love this dress.. Simple cutting yet with a dash of elegance.. What do you think? Hmmm…

Happy holidays!

~es~

Courage to go…

Just the other day, I watched Stephen Chow latest movie. And what I realize is that this movie it’s not a love story or a dance movie. It contains a much deeper meaning then that. It’s about dreams and how people achieved their dreams. Whether it was the rich young man who became so rich, to the village girl who wanted to dance, or the villages who came to the city to earn more money; all of them have dreams and the story tells of it.

I remember a phrase from the movie. It goes something like “It’s easier to give up. But it takes courage to go after your dreams.” And that struck me.

You know, so many times I have given up on things just cause it was too hard. I’ll convince myself that it’s not worth my time and that it is just not meant to be. Or maybe I will just push it aside and try to forget about it.

I’m sure many of you can relate to this. It is way much easier to give up. It takes up less time and effort.

But after watching this movie, I’ve realize…

Maybe its time to go chasing after my dreams again…

It will take more effort and determination, but the satisfaction you’ll get at the end, might just be worth it…

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