Who wears the pants?

I’m sure you have heard of this popular game on Hitz.FM. Is a game where a guy answering a girl questions competes with a girl answering a guy question. And the winner is the one who manage to answer the most question right. And if you didn’t know it, the girls have always (almost always :) been winning this game. And the conclusion is “Girls wears the pants” :p yay! Go girls!

I really enjoy hearing the game and trying to answer the questions myself. People have always known me as a feminist, an ever-powerful, ever-strong, ever-in-control girl who believes strongly that woman and man have equal rights. Ever since young, I’ve always been taking over roles in which many believe should be a man’s responsibilities. Even at university, I had lots of fans :) “Anti – Esther fan club” where all the guys goes running back with their tails between their legs to complain and bitch about after losing out to me ;p. Yep, that’s right, it’s so fun

Now, as I grow older, I’m still a feminist. I still believe that woman & man have equal roles in society. And I guess that in a relationship, it’s still the same. That’s why God created us that way. In a relationship, a woman and a man are made to complement each other. There are certain things which man can do and certain things which only woman can do. Women are made to be a companion to the man, and the men are made to love the woman. That’s natural … Some woman believes that they have to be in control in a relationship. I’m not saying it’s wrong, but I think that there might be other ways without wearing the pants *winks*.

So here is my take. I believe that a man and a woman have equal rights but I also strongly believe that in a relationship, a man wears the pants (but the woman holds up the pants)

I’m a feminist or some may call me a post-feminist, and I’m darn proud of it :p

~es~

What’s a woman worth?

What is a woman worth? We are so caught up in the thinking of the world which looks on the outwards appearance rather than the inwards. Have you ever notice that what draws people to you is not how attractive you look on the outside?

I really enjoy people watching. I can just go to a shopping center or sit in a restaurant and just watch the people that go by. I can just see most unlikely couples and I’ll be thinking to myself “How on earth did she get him?” or “What on earth was he thinking about?” And it just struck me that appearance is not everything.

We have been trained since young, or in other words brainwash :p to think that what matters most is how we look on the outside. I think that the cosmetics, clothes, and the beauty industry are making billions of ringgit every year just because of this. We spend so much money *including me*winks* on clothes, spas, facial and body products, shoes, slimming products, salon just to look good and to attract people to us. What we have done is good; yes, we might be able to attract a little attention, turn a head or two but that would not last long.

After a while, things turn bad and we will start to think “What when wrong?”

It’s like a present. What matters is the inside of the package. But we spend so much on the packaging that we forget to spend on the gift. And when we open it, we find it empty.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying don’t spend on making yourself beautiful. I’m not saying don’t buy clothes and eat good food. All I’m saying is maybe we can re-look into what we deem as important. I’m guilty myself. I spend tons of money on clothes and shoes just to make myself look good and attractive. But sad to say, I have not really work on my inside. And I’m really not sure whether people will still find me attractive after getting to know me

On the other hand, our men like us to look good. Not only do they appreciate looking at us, but they know they look even better when they are out together with a lady who looks good outwardly. *winks* It’s true. But what most women don’t know about most men, however, is that outer looks don’t matter nearly as much as inner qualities once that men is alone with his lady.

You may ask, “So what should I do?” My take is spend money on the outward, but don’t forget the inward as well. Look gorgeous outside but look even better on the inside. After all, that is what attracts people to us, our inner qualities. Don’t forget this common-use-but-vitally-meaningful phrase

“Beauty comes from within”

~es~