And they all lived happily ever after…

Do you ever believe that you will finally meet someone, fall so deeply in love and lived happily ever after? Like in all fairy tales..

I grew up as a little girl, watching fairy tales and hopping that one day my prince will come and rescue me on a white horse.. And then we will live happily ever after. Ask most girls or ladies… I’m sure we all grew up with such hopes and dreams…

But reality strikes and we are back with the not-so-perfect guy and then we’ll wonder… what happened?

Some people spend their whole life looking for just the perfect guy and some stay stuck their whole life with the not-so-perfect guy.  So what when wrong?

I got just 1 word for it… Its “YOU”. You need to stop living in a fantasy world. You will end up hurting yourself and your love ones..

So don’t go looking around for the perfect man.. They may never come..

Just look at the one beside you and thank God everyday that He have given someone so special and so unique to love. He may not be perfect, but then again, you are not perfect either… That’s what make life so interesting :p and maybe… just maybe, you’ll discover someone perfect for you…

And they all lived happily ever after…

~es~

Who’s paying the bill?

When we were young, we do not care. All we want is just to make sure there is food to eat. Lots and lots of food. As we get older, things change a little. We will try our best to get our friends to “belanja” us. It doesn’t matter if we coerce them or flirt with them, as long as we get free meals. Girls, you know what I mean :p And yet, as we get older, we’ll say “ This meal is on me”, just to show off how rich we are. And we will quarrel and argue and fight till the cows come home on whose money the waiter should take. I’m sure all of you know what I mean. It’s simple and part of our lives… and you see it all around…

But then, what about in a relationship? I asked my friends all around me, both guys and girls and I got a wide range of answers. Its funny how some people try to justify themselves as to why they made this arrangements.

Some say they go dutch, or even split the bill 50% 50%; as both the couples earn the same. It’s totally NOT fair for the guy to pay always. Right guys? Then, there is some who says either 30% 70% or 40% 60% with the guy paying a little bit more, just to show that they wear the pants. Or some who let the girl pays for everything. And then, there is this group of guys, the ones that all the girls love, who will pay for everything, till the very last cents.

So now, you tell me, which paying methods works? ……………….

I guess there is no perfect way to look at this. My take is that you guys work out the arrangements between yourselves and ensure that both parties are happy. Make sure you discuss about this will surely curb up whenever an argument arises.

~es~

P.S. My boyfie pays for the bill. But every once in a while, I will surprise him by paying for everything. And he has been very happy about it :p

Who wears the pants?

I’m sure you have heard of this popular game on Hitz.FM. Is a game where a guy answering a girl questions competes with a girl answering a guy question. And the winner is the one who manage to answer the most question right. And if you didn’t know it, the girls have always (almost always :) been winning this game. And the conclusion is “Girls wears the pants” :p yay! Go girls!

I really enjoy hearing the game and trying to answer the questions myself. People have always known me as a feminist, an ever-powerful, ever-strong, ever-in-control girl who believes strongly that woman and man have equal rights. Ever since young, I’ve always been taking over roles in which many believe should be a man’s responsibilities. Even at university, I had lots of fans :) “Anti – Esther fan club” where all the guys goes running back with their tails between their legs to complain and bitch about after losing out to me ;p. Yep, that’s right, it’s so fun

Now, as I grow older, I’m still a feminist. I still believe that woman & man have equal roles in society. And I guess that in a relationship, it’s still the same. That’s why God created us that way. In a relationship, a woman and a man are made to complement each other. There are certain things which man can do and certain things which only woman can do. Women are made to be a companion to the man, and the men are made to love the woman. That’s natural … Some woman believes that they have to be in control in a relationship. I’m not saying it’s wrong, but I think that there might be other ways without wearing the pants *winks*.

So here is my take. I believe that a man and a woman have equal rights but I also strongly believe that in a relationship, a man wears the pants (but the woman holds up the pants)

I’m a feminist or some may call me a post-feminist, and I’m darn proud of it :p

~es~

What’s a woman worth?

What is a woman worth? We are so caught up in the thinking of the world which looks on the outwards appearance rather than the inwards. Have you ever notice that what draws people to you is not how attractive you look on the outside?

I really enjoy people watching. I can just go to a shopping center or sit in a restaurant and just watch the people that go by. I can just see most unlikely couples and I’ll be thinking to myself “How on earth did she get him?” or “What on earth was he thinking about?” And it just struck me that appearance is not everything.

We have been trained since young, or in other words brainwash :p to think that what matters most is how we look on the outside. I think that the cosmetics, clothes, and the beauty industry are making billions of ringgit every year just because of this. We spend so much money *including me*winks* on clothes, spas, facial and body products, shoes, slimming products, salon just to look good and to attract people to us. What we have done is good; yes, we might be able to attract a little attention, turn a head or two but that would not last long.

After a while, things turn bad and we will start to think “What when wrong?”

It’s like a present. What matters is the inside of the package. But we spend so much on the packaging that we forget to spend on the gift. And when we open it, we find it empty.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying don’t spend on making yourself beautiful. I’m not saying don’t buy clothes and eat good food. All I’m saying is maybe we can re-look into what we deem as important. I’m guilty myself. I spend tons of money on clothes and shoes just to make myself look good and attractive. But sad to say, I have not really work on my inside. And I’m really not sure whether people will still find me attractive after getting to know me

On the other hand, our men like us to look good. Not only do they appreciate looking at us, but they know they look even better when they are out together with a lady who looks good outwardly. *winks* It’s true. But what most women don’t know about most men, however, is that outer looks don’t matter nearly as much as inner qualities once that men is alone with his lady.

You may ask, “So what should I do?” My take is spend money on the outward, but don’t forget the inward as well. Look gorgeous outside but look even better on the inside. After all, that is what attracts people to us, our inner qualities. Don’t forget this common-use-but-vitally-meaningful phrase

“Beauty comes from within”

~es~

A weird thing about humans…

Humans are humans. We all we want good things. We want a good life, we want a happy life, we want a hot boyfriend, we want lots of money, and we want all the good stuff. And when things goes bad and everything seems to go wrong and we don’t seem to get all the good stuff that that we want, we start to blame God, our bosses, our companies, our lecturers, everybody else except us. And then we moan and groan over our misfortune.

But the funny thing is what happens when good things come our way? Do we accept it or do we say “It’s too good to be true” and “It’s just plain luck”. Most of the time we yearn for something good and when it comes over way, we think that it is too good to be true and believes that it will go away. It’s impossible, it’s not mean for me, it’s just luck, and sooner or later it will all go away. Sounds familiar?

Take for example, this girlfriend of mine. She really like this guy and have maintain a long distance friendship with him for a long 9 months. And the thing is this guy is such a ‘perfect’ guy, according to her la ;p. What happens after that was he came back, fell in love with her and decided he wants to be with her. They seem so perfect together. And then… she started to doubt. She can’t believe that all this is happening to her and that he is to perfect for her. She started asking herself whether she should remain in a relationship with him.

Hmm… you might be thinking “you are nuts girl” but then again, haven’t you done it before?

Maybe it’s the fear of failure, maybe is the way we brought up, maybe it’s just plain pure luck. But have you ever wonder, maybe it is God fulfilling our dreams and desires. Maybe is part of God’s BIG plan. Maybe it’s just meant to be. Maybe, just maybe it is our destiny.

Weird huh?

~es~