The men wanted a perfect wife, someone who can cook, clean, wash, take care of kids, shop, have sex, serve the husband in all ways, with a big boops, perfect body, fresh make-up, doesn’t nag, always smiling, and basically perfect. You get the gist of it. And no surprising is that 99% of them felt the same way and turns all their wives into the perfect wife. It is only one guy who decided that he wanted a wife, not a robot and turn the story around.

Let say, if you were given a choice, what would you do? If you are given a chance to get the perfect guy, would you do it? I guess it has always been a dream for a girl to get a guy who can cook, cleans the house, “jaga anak”, and rich, charming, with a hot bod and cute looks. And given the opportunity, most girls would grab it and be the envy of their friends.

But, what is so good about this perfect guy anyway?

Would you give up on the chance with someone who can make you laugh and at the same time infuriate you? Would you give up on the time spend in knowing someone deep down and allowing that person to know you in return? Would you want to forget the joy of washing the dishes together or sharing the pain when the other person gets hurt? Would you miss out on the opportunity to argue with, cry for, dream together with someone who will share and understand it? Would you give up on knowing that despite your flaws, the other person loves you the same? Would you want to live knowing that the “I love you” does not mean a thing? Would you want to give up on loving someone and being love in return?

I wouldn’t.

We are made by God as companions for each other, not a slave for the other.

After all, as what she said at the end of the movie, “After knowing how perfect is, perfect isn’t so great after all”.

And to quote what my boyfie use to say

“What’s so fun about perfect? It’s the imperfection that makes life more interesting. “

~es~

At that point, I just keep quiet, not knowing whether to defend my own species or agree that girls are extremely complicated beings. And then I realize… Girls are not so complicated. It’s just that God made us differently from guys and the way we think and feel are much different.

My guy friends always tell me that the minds of girls are very complicated and it is not easy understanding them. Girls say something but mean another thing. They tell you they don’t want something, but deep inside they want it so badly. Why on earth girls cannot say whatever they want to instead of trying to make guys read their mind? They would all give a big SIGH…

So guys, here’s a lesson for you on how to lessen your girlfriend’s complain about the amount of time you spend with her and girls, here how to make your boyfie’s life easier.

# 1. Set aside 1 or 2 days a week just for yourselves. It’s because some weeks, things will get so busy and everything is extremely important or urgent and you gotta handle it or you are going to lose the customer and your boss will fire you, that kinda thing.. and before you know it, it’s too late and you might even lose her to someone who will appreciate her more. Remember that this means no interruptions from friends, parents, phone calls, emails, fax, etc… Believe me, it’s worth it. It doesn’t matter if it’s just yam char-ing at the mamak or catching a movie. What matters is that you set a time just for you both and please guys, make sure you spend that time with her and not with your phone or work.

#2. Quality, not quantity. I know. I know. Lots of people know it but not many people follows. Please, spend quality time with each other. Guys, there is no point in taking her for movies every single day of the week when you are not really there with her. If you are not “there”, don’t bother taking her out at all. You’ll be wasting your time and money. Girls are sensitive. They know when you are not there with them. Physically yes but mentally no. Be with her when you are with her and not a thousand miles away. That is what matters to us.

#3. Prioritize. I’m not saying that you prioritize your life. E.g. God, loved ones, finance…. (Please do it if you have not). But in your list of to-dos, you can do that. Some things can be put aside first. Determine what is urgent and important, what is urgent but not important, what is not urgent but important and what is not urgent and not important. If you have a very understanding girlfriend, then good for you. If not, prioritizing will take you a long way.

#4. Talk with each other. Girls are not that complicated, and neither are guys. All you got to do is learn to listen to the other when they talk. Really listen to what they are trying to say. Try to hear the 3rd conversation going on in their minds. And put yourselves in their shoes. I always believe that a couple should always talk to each other A LOT. Really really sit down and talk. Not just spend your time together watching movies or making out. Talking bonds people and build a better relationship.

I’ve said my part and I hope that it may help you in your relationship. And now it’s your turn to do something.

My final piece of advice,

Girls, please be MORE understanding and LESS demanding.

And guys keep in mind that making money is NOT everything. *at least to most girls :p

Toodles,
~es~

It’s a brand new year!

I like new years. I like setting resolutions. I know some may think that resolutions are a bunch of crap and it’s not like you will follow it after awhile. But I like setting my own resolutions. Without fail every year, I’ll write my resolutions. It’s not always that I achieved my resolutions. Sometimes at the end of the year, I’ll look back and sigh with dismay that I have not done anything. But setting resolutions gave me a goal, a direction that I can focus on and that at the end of the year, I can look back I feel the satisfaction of having done something in my life. Don’t ever let this happen to you; when one day, you stop and realize that your life has passed you by and that you have not accomplished anything yet.

So for all those people out there who are having the Monday blues, here’s something for you to read “2010.Grow Up.”

And then get started on your resolutions. I’ve done mine..

~es~

Here’s our checklist,

1. Bridal shower – Check. Just had it yesterday.. hehe.. Nope, no naughty pictures to show ;p

2. Bridemaid dress – Check

3. Make-up – Check

4. Hair-do – Check

5. Flowers – Check

6. Pedicures & Manicures – Check

7. Shoes – Ch…. OH WAIT!! No shoes yet..

Sigh, so many things to do, so little time.. But its OK. After all, weddings are once in a lifetime event..

Wish me luck in being the best bridesmaid ever..

Toodles people.. off to get my shoes now…

Oh wait, I just love this dress.. Simple cutting yet with a dash of elegance.. What do you think? Hmmm…

Happy holidays!

~es~

I remember a phrase from the movie. It goes something like “It’s easier to give up. But it takes courage to go after your dreams.” And that struck me.

You know, so many times I have given up on things just cause it was too hard. I’ll convince myself that it’s not worth my time and that it is just not meant to be. Or maybe I will just push it aside and try to forget about it.

I’m sure many of you can relate to this. It is way much easier to give up. It takes up less time and effort.

But after watching this movie, I’ve realize…

Maybe its time to go chasing after my dreams again…

It will take more effort and determination, but the satisfaction you’ll get at the end, might just be worth it…

I really want something. I have waited for it for years and years. I feel that I truly deserve it and I am ready for it.

And year after year, I’ve met with disappointment and frustration.

Why me? Why not me?

Then I received a revelation. I remembered my purpose and passion. I remembered why I am there, and suddenly what I wanted doesn’t matter anymore. I realized my purpose and that was more important then glory or recognition.

And suddenly, I got what I wanted.

Ironic isn’t it, when you want something, it doesn’t happen but when we finally release it, it comes back to you. I guess the universe is playing a trick on us… Or is it just Murphy’s Law…

But then again, maybe it’s just a reminder that He is always in control…

Till then..

~es~

I grew up as a little girl, watching fairy tales and hopping that one day my prince will come and rescue me on a white horse.. And then we will live happily ever after. Ask most girls or ladies… I’m sure we all grew up with such hopes and dreams…

But reality strikes and we are back with the not-so-perfect guy and then we’ll wonder… what happened?

Some people spend their whole life looking for just the perfect guy and some stay stuck their whole life with the not-so-perfect guy.  So what when wrong?

I got just 1 word for it… Its “YOU”. You need to stop living in a fantasy world. You will end up hurting yourself and your love ones..

So don’t go looking around for the perfect man.. They may never come..

Just look at the one beside you and thank God everyday that He have given someone so special and so unique to love. He may not be perfect, but then again, you are not perfect either… That’s what make life so interesting :p and maybe… just maybe, you’ll discover someone perfect for you…

And they all lived happily ever after…

~es~

The Road Not Taken

by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

~es~

I guess all of us have that little tiny voice that always seem to appear at just the wrong time.

Take this friend of mine. She met this guy, had a few dates with him. He seems such a decent guy. A little bad boy, but just enough to make him interesting. He is not what she expected. She had fun and she wanted to see him more. But then,… a little tiny voice comes in.. And she starts thinking, “Am I making a Big mistake? Maybe I can get someone a little better? Maybe I can get someone a little richer? Maybe I have not consider all the options I have? Maybe, just maybe?”

So many maybes.. But I guess will never know if we don’t try. To just take risk when all odds are against it.. To just have the determination to defy all circumstances and at the end, come out victorious…

That’s what courage is about…

~es~

OH WAIT!!! Did you just hear a tiny little voice whispering ~~ Check out that awesome necklace~~ *winks*

When we were young, we do not care. All we want is just to make sure there is food to eat. Lots and lots of food. As we get older, things change a little. We will try our best to get our friends to “belanja” us. It doesn’t matter if we coerce them or flirt with them, as long as we get free meals. Girls, you know what I mean :p And yet, as we get older, we’ll say “ This meal is on me”, just to show off how rich we are. And we will quarrel and argue and fight till the cows come home on whose money the waiter should take. I’m sure all of you know what I mean. It’s simple and part of our lives… and you see it all around…

But then, what about in a relationship? I asked my friends all around me, both guys and girls and I got a wide range of answers. Its funny how some people try to justify themselves as to why they made this arrangements.

Some say they go dutch, or even split the bill 50% 50%; as both the couples earn the same. It’s totally NOT fair for the guy to pay always. Right guys? Then, there is some who says either 30% 70% or 40% 60% with the guy paying a little bit more, just to show that they wear the pants. Or some who let the girl pays for everything. And then, there is this group of guys, the ones that all the girls love, who will pay for everything, till the very last cents.

So now, you tell me, which paying methods works? ……………….

I guess there is no perfect way to look at this. My take is that you guys work out the arrangements between yourselves and ensure that both parties are happy. Make sure you discuss about this will surely curb up whenever an argument arises.

~es~

P.S. My boyfie pays for the bill. But every once in a while, I will surprise him by paying for everything. And he has been very happy about it :p