Traditional vs. Modern

As I get older in age, one thing that’s always at the top of my mind is “Marriage”. Well, there’s not much that I could do to stop this thoughts. My friends are getting married and I’ve been receiving tons of invitations. There goes my salary this year My sister just got married. I pass by streets of wedding shops everyday to work. Every time I meet up with old friends and relatives, the questions that just seem to be the ‘in’ thing is “When are you getting married?”

Sigh…

Anyway, my biggest worry is not when, it’s how? Young people nowadays tend to be very modern and western-ish. But when it’s time to tie the knot, such a big hoo-ha occurs about having it the modern or the traditional way. One side of the family says 1 thing; the other says another, and not forgetting all the very interested relatives adding in a word or two. Well, you guess it right, most of the time, the couples who will be getting married are the ones caught in the middle, trying to please both parents, getting so stress out themselves and having to forgo the wedding they dreamt off.

Sad to say, all this have become such a reality. And sometimes it drags on after the wedding, and relationships gets strain.

Why?

Maybe it’s because the parents do not want their daughter to be marrying away so easily. Maybe they want to do what’s best for her. Maybe the groom family is not multi-millionaires. Maybe both sides do not want to give in so easier and want the best they can get out of this wedding. I really don’t know..

All I can say is leave the couple to decide what they want. It does not matter how many tables each sides get, or who gets invited, who does not, who collects the money, who pays for what, where will the dinner be held, how big is the hall, how much dowry is given, where will the honeymoon be, and this list goes on.

It does not matter if it’s carried out the traditional way or the more modern way. What matters most is that the couple is HAPPY. After all, they are the ones getting married, NOT YOU.

~es~

p.s. And if all else fails, there is always something call eloping *winks*. But i’m definitely not encouraging that. I’m a fairytale girl and I WANT A FAIRYTALE WEDDING :p

Weddings Jitters…

Ohhh, how I love weddings! The thrill and giggles and the love-in-the-air feeling..

Here’s our checklist,

1. Bridal shower – Check. Just had it yesterday.. hehe.. Nope, no naughty pictures to show ;p

2. Bridemaid dress – Check

3. Make-up – Check

4. Hair-do – Check

5. Flowers – Check

6. Pedicures & Manicures – Check

7. Shoes – Ch…. OH WAIT!! No shoes yet..

Sigh, so many things to do, so little time.. But its OK. After all, weddings are once in a lifetime event..

Wish me luck in being the best bridesmaid ever..

Toodles people.. off to get my shoes now…

Oh wait, I just love this dress.. Simple cutting yet with a dash of elegance.. What do you think? Hmmm…

Happy holidays!

~es~

Courage to go…

Just the other day, I watched Stephen Chow latest movie. And what I realize is that this movie it’s not a love story or a dance movie. It contains a much deeper meaning then that. It’s about dreams and how people achieved their dreams. Whether it was the rich young man who became so rich, to the village girl who wanted to dance, or the villages who came to the city to earn more money; all of them have dreams and the story tells of it.

I remember a phrase from the movie. It goes something like “It’s easier to give up. But it takes courage to go after your dreams.” And that struck me.

You know, so many times I have given up on things just cause it was too hard. I’ll convince myself that it’s not worth my time and that it is just not meant to be. Or maybe I will just push it aside and try to forget about it.

I’m sure many of you can relate to this. It is way much easier to give up. It takes up less time and effort.

But after watching this movie, I’ve realize…

Maybe its time to go chasing after my dreams again…

It will take more effort and determination, but the satisfaction you’ll get at the end, might just be worth it…

Dream or love?

Let’s say you have a dream. And suddenly an opportunity arises that gives you the once in a lifetime chance to pursue it. But then, this would mean leaving behind your love ones or family. Will you go for it?

Some might say it would be stupid to give up your dream. A few years down the road, you’ll be old and time will run out. You will regret it and blame others for pulling you back.

Some might say, love ones first. They are the most important aspect of life. What is left behind will forever be gone.

What do you say?

Well, there is no right or wrong answer for it. If you would have asked me a few years ago, I would have said “Go for your dream! After all, you’ll only live once.” But I guess, it’s easier said then done. Would you be willing to give up everything just to go for your dream?? Or live a life or regrets that you’ll never achieve your dream?? Would you stop someone for achieving their dreams?? Or let them chase their dreams without you??

I really like the movie “UP”. It tells on how a young girl, who dreamt of something but never achieved it. Instead, she recreated her dream; with her love one. And she died a happy person.

Can dreams change? Can dreams be shared?

What would you have done?

~es~

And they all lived happily ever after…

Do you ever believe that you will finally meet someone, fall so deeply in love and lived happily ever after? Like in all fairy tales..

I grew up as a little girl, watching fairy tales and hopping that one day my prince will come and rescue me on a white horse.. And then we will live happily ever after. Ask most girls or ladies… I’m sure we all grew up with such hopes and dreams…

But reality strikes and we are back with the not-so-perfect guy and then we’ll wonder… what happened?

Some people spend their whole life looking for just the perfect guy and some stay stuck their whole life with the not-so-perfect guy.  So what when wrong?

I got just 1 word for it… Its “YOU”. You need to stop living in a fantasy world. You will end up hurting yourself and your love ones..

So don’t go looking around for the perfect man.. They may never come..

Just look at the one beside you and thank God everyday that He have given someone so special and so unique to love. He may not be perfect, but then again, you are not perfect either… That’s what make life so interesting :p and maybe… just maybe, you’ll discover someone perfect for you…

And they all lived happily ever after…

~es~