Why do I talk like a baby?

Do you act or talk like a baby when you are with your boyfiend?

Come on, be truthful… I believe that the majority of girls act or talks like a baby when they are with their boyfiend.

Why do we actually do that? We pout and flirt and act “manja-manja” whenever we are together with them and believe me, you ONLY do it when you are alone with him. When there are other people around, you are a different person.

Why do we do it?

Maybe is because you want your guy to feel like the strong, big macho man, who is able to protect his baby. Maybe is because you want to sweet talk him into taking you somewhere or buying you something. Maybe is to make him laugh at your antics. Whatever the reasons, only you yourself knows it..

But I’ll let you in on a secret. When you baby talk with your boyfriend, he believes that you are in love with him. It’s a guy thing. That’s how they tell whether a girl is in love with them or not. Surprised? Well, I guess it’s been around for ages. *sigh* and they say it so difficult to understand girls *eyes roll*

I meant, if a girl does not love a guy, why baby talk with him? She can flirt and charm him, but not baby talk with him.

So the secret has been spilled. You girls know what you gotta do *winks*

~es~

Girls. Complicated?

Just the other day, a friend of mine complained “Girls are complicated. First they want you to work hard and earn more money. But then when you work hard, they complain that you don’t spend enough time with them.”

At that point, I just keep quiet, not knowing whether to defend my own species or agree that girls are extremely complicated beings. And then I realize… Girls are not so complicated. It’s just that God made us differently from guys and the way we think and feel are much different.

My guy friends always tell me that the minds of girls are very complicated and it is not easy understanding them. Girls say something but mean another thing. They tell you they don’t want something, but deep inside they want it so badly. Why on earth girls cannot say whatever they want to instead of trying to make guys read their mind? They would all give a big SIGH…

So guys, here’s a lesson for you on how to lessen your girlfriend’s complain about the amount of time you spend with her and girls, here how to make your boyfie’s life easier.

# 1. Set aside 1 or 2 days a week just for yourselves. It’s because some weeks, things will get so busy and everything is extremely important or urgent and you gotta handle it or you are going to lose the customer and your boss will fire you, that kinda thing.. and before you know it, it’s too late and you might even lose her to someone who will appreciate her more. Remember that this means no interruptions from friends, parents, phone calls, emails, fax, etc… Believe me, it’s worth it. It doesn’t matter if it’s just yam char-ing at the mamak or catching a movie. What matters is that you set a time just for you both and please guys, make sure you spend that time with her and not with your phone or work.

#2. Quality, not quantity. I know. I know. Lots of people know it but not many people follows. Please, spend quality time with each other. Guys, there is no point in taking her for movies every single day of the week when you are not really there with her. If you are not “there”, don’t bother taking her out at all. You’ll be wasting your time and money. Girls are sensitive. They know when you are not there with them. Physically yes but mentally no. Be with her when you are with her and not a thousand miles away. That is what matters to us.

#3. Prioritize. I’m not saying that you prioritize your life. E.g. God, loved ones, finance…. (Please do it if you have not). But in your list of to-dos, you can do that. Some things can be put aside first. Determine what is urgent and important, what is urgent but not important, what is not urgent but important and what is not urgent and not important. If you have a very understanding girlfriend, then good for you. If not, prioritizing will take you a long way.

#4. Talk with each other. Girls are not that complicated, and neither are guys. All you got to do is learn to listen to the other when they talk. Really listen to what they are trying to say. Try to hear the 3rd conversation going on in their minds. And put yourselves in their shoes. I always believe that a couple should always talk to each other A LOT. Really really sit down and talk. Not just spend your time together watching movies or making out. Talking bonds people and build a better relationship.

I’ve said my part and I hope that it may help you in your relationship. And now it’s your turn to do something.

My final piece of advice,

Girls, please be MORE understanding and LESS demanding.

And guys keep in mind that making money is NOT everything. *at least to most girls :p

Toodles,
~es~

Dating a Rockstar…

Have you ever hear the phrase “Avoid dating musicians?” Well, if you have not, then you will hear it from me. Girls tend to avoid dating musicians. Nope, they are attracted to musicians *gosh, so much talents* but having a relationship with them can be such a big NO NO to them. Maybe it’s the common knowledge musicians cannot be trusted or that his first love will always be music or maybe is the late nights and girl fans part. Yep, dating musicians can be quite a heartbreaker..

But then again, it’s not that hard. I should know about it *winks* Musicians have certain characteristics that should be known before entering into a relationship. What you need is lots of patience, understanding, persistence and love for music * I’m working on this* wish me luck

So here is my piece of advice..

Love Music. Enjoy listening to the music they are creating or when they play. If you hate their music, you’re signing up for disaster.

Understanding. Understand that part of being a musician means having late night’s activity and thongs of girl fans. It does not mean that they are cheating on you. Understand that sometimes they are so caught up with music and their gig that they may tend to forget you are around. It does not mean that they don’t need you to be there.

Time. Music is a time-consuming addiction more than a ‘job’. Resist the urge to compete for their attention when they are working. Don’t pout and whine that he is always spending time with his music.

Encouragements. Encourage them. Musicians are not superman. They also need the boost of confidence and praises from you, not just from his fans.

Security. You need lots of them. Understand that musicians have had a long-term relationship with the music. Any issues on possessiveness and/or jealousy got to be managed well. Don’t try and block the person from their music. Remember that with musicians, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE NUMBER TWO, even though they tell you otherwise.

 Yep, dating musicians can be tough but then again, musicians are well known for their passion *winks*

~es~

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Men will always be Men??

I was in Malacca the other day and I saw something that caught my eye.

Interesting huh? What do you think?

Men will always be men?

Or

Men will always be Boys?

I believe that no matter how mature or grown up or cool a guy is, he will tend to have a little of the boy inside him. They will still want to be loved by a woman, they will still wanna be cared for by a woman, they will still want to have toys to play with, and they will still be naughty when they are out with their friends.

Yet, we girls want our man to be a man. Someone to take care of us, someone who we can feel safe with, someone who will wipe away our tears and someone to scare all the big bad guys away.

So caught in between this two are our men, not knowing whether to fulfill their dreams or to be the man their girl want them to be?

What would it be girls?

Well, I say, “Let men be both men and boys”.

After all, we need both sides of them sometimes. And they will love you more for it

Till then, LovePieces