Take care…

Here is my list of “Things never to say to your boyfriend:

1. “You know, Annie’s pregnant… but you must promise never to tell it to anyone”

It’s going to be hard for him to remember what he can or cannot say. Not only is he carrying around the weight of all your secrets, he needs to remember your friend’s secret as well. Well, if he did spill the beans, you will get the blame from your friend, not him.

2. “After we get married….”

You might just scare him off. Most guys are afraid of commitments. Don’t ask me why, I still can’t figure it out yet. I guess it’s the animal instinct in them that if they get married, they lose out on maybe getting a better chick then you. But mind you, this is only applicable if you are new in a relationship. If you have been together for a long, long time and you are moving towards marriage, then it’s fine. But remember, if you wanna fantasize at the beginning of a relationship; keep those fantasies in your head.

3. “Do you think she’s pretty?

What do you think you will get by asking this question? If he says “yes,” you’ll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with “Is she prettier than me?” Talk about a loaded question!

If he says “no”, you’ll accuse him of being a liar. You’ll wonder what else he’s lying about, even as you assure him you don’t mind if he says “yes.” Pfff…as if you’re that insecure!

Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn’t find her attractive at all? You’ll wonder what his bad taste says about you.

See?

Either way, no one wins..

4. “I’m fine”

You know, I’ve used this word countless of time but I guess I’ve not a very good liar. He knows it from the look on my face. Maybe it’s the fact that I’ve not said a word or look at him for the past hour. But when your boyfriend asks if you’re okay and you say you’re fine; your boyfriend most probable wants to tear his hair out.

Be open. Be honest. Share and talk to each other. Hiding your frustrations will eventually create more problems.

5. “Are you sure you’re okay?”

(Repeatedly. Even after he’s told you he really is okay.)

Haha. I’ve also used this countless of time. Sometimes when your boyfriend gets quiet and does not talk to you, you’ll get worried. I know how it feels. And us being girls, we prod and probe, hoping to understand what the issue is. But in actual fact, there is no reason at all.

I realize that men can get emotional too. After all, they are also humans. They have their ups and downs to, their bad days and moodiness.

Get him space and time.

6. “I hate my thighs”

If he didn’t find you attractive, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.

Talking about how unattractive you are, or how you don’t like certain parts of your body will only make you looks insecure. We girls like men who have self-confidence. I’m sure men are attracted to self-confidence women too. Don’t draw his attention to all your flaws (even though we all know you have them). Instead, show why he was and still is attracted to you. Be sexy and stay sexy.

7. “Why are you friends with him?”

You might not like his friends, family, dog, business contacts. But you don’t have to hate them. Don’t be in a position where he has to keep defending them. Learn to get along with them and try to see things from his perspective. Try to understand why he likes or trust them. Trust his judgments. And whatever you do, don’t ever make him pick a side. You will lose out at the end.

I’ve said enough. To all the girls out there, good luck in your relationship :p

~es~

*small excerpts from Shine at Yahoo

]]> http://lovepieces.com/2010/02/02/things-you-should-never-say-to-your-boyfriend/feed/ 2 http://lovepieces.com/2010/01/07/girls-complicated/ http://lovepieces.com/2010/01/07/girls-complicated/#comments Wed, 06 Jan 2010 22:19:06 +0000 lovepieces http://lovepieces.com/?p=1023 Just the other day, a friend of mine complained “Girls are complicated. First they want you to work hard and earn more money. But then when you work hard, they complain that you don’t spend enough time with them.”

At that point, I just keep quiet, not knowing whether to defend my own species or agree that girls are extremely complicated beings. And then I realize… Girls are not so complicated. It’s just that God made us differently from guys and the way we think and feel are much different.

My guy friends always tell me that the minds of girls are very complicated and it is not easy understanding them. Girls say something but mean another thing. They tell you they don’t want something, but deep inside they want it so badly. Why on earth girls cannot say whatever they want to instead of trying to make guys read their mind? They would all give a big SIGH…

So guys, here’s a lesson for you on how to lessen your girlfriend’s complain about the amount of time you spend with her and girls, here how to make your boyfie’s life easier.

# 1. Set aside 1 or 2 days a week just for yourselves. It’s because some weeks, things will get so busy and everything is extremely important or urgent and you gotta handle it or you are going to lose the customer and your boss will fire you, that kinda thing.. and before you know it, it’s too late and you might even lose her to someone who will appreciate her more. Remember that this means no interruptions from friends, parents, phone calls, emails, fax, etc… Believe me, it’s worth it. It doesn’t matter if it’s just yam char-ing at the mamak or catching a movie. What matters is that you set a time just for you both and please guys, make sure you spend that time with her and not with your phone or work.

#2. Quality, not quantity. I know. I know. Lots of people know it but not many people follows. Please, spend quality time with each other. Guys, there is no point in taking her for movies every single day of the week when you are not really there with her. If you are not “there”, don’t bother taking her out at all. You’ll be wasting your time and money. Girls are sensitive. They know when you are not there with them. Physically yes but mentally no. Be with her when you are with her and not a thousand miles away. That is what matters to us.

#3. Prioritize. I’m not saying that you prioritize your life. E.g. God, loved ones, finance…. (Please do it if you have not). But in your list of to-dos, you can do that. Some things can be put aside first. Determine what is urgent and important, what is urgent but not important, what is not urgent but important and what is not urgent and not important. If you have a very understanding girlfriend, then good for you. If not, prioritizing will take you a long way.

#4. Talk with each other. Girls are not that complicated, and neither are guys. All you got to do is learn to listen to the other when they talk. Really listen to what they are trying to say. Try to hear the 3rd conversation going on in their minds. And put yourselves in their shoes. I always believe that a couple should always talk to each other A LOT. Really really sit down and talk. Not just spend your time together watching movies or making out. Talking bonds people and build a better relationship.

I’ve said my part and I hope that it may help you in your relationship. And now it’s your turn to do something.

My final piece of advice,

Girls, please be MORE understanding and LESS demanding.

And guys keep in mind that making money is NOT everything. *at least to most girls :p

Toodles,
~es~

It’s a brand new year!

I like new years. I like setting resolutions. I know some may think that resolutions are a bunch of crap and it’s not like you will follow it after awhile. But I like setting my own resolutions. Without fail every year, I’ll write my resolutions. It’s not always that I achieved my resolutions. Sometimes at the end of the year, I’ll look back and sigh with dismay that I have not done anything. But setting resolutions gave me a goal, a direction that I can focus on and that at the end of the year, I can look back I feel the satisfaction of having done something in my life. Don’t ever let this happen to you; when one day, you stop and realize that your life has passed you by and that you have not accomplished anything yet.

So for all those people out there who are having the Monday blues, here’s something for you to read “2010.Grow Up.”

And then get started on your resolutions. I’ve done mine..

~es~

I remember a phrase from the movie. It goes something like “It’s easier to give up. But it takes courage to go after your dreams.” And that struck me.

You know, so many times I have given up on things just cause it was too hard. I’ll convince myself that it’s not worth my time and that it is just not meant to be. Or maybe I will just push it aside and try to forget about it.

I’m sure many of you can relate to this. It is way much easier to give up. It takes up less time and effort.

But after watching this movie, I’ve realize…

Maybe its time to go chasing after my dreams again…

It will take more effort and determination, but the satisfaction you’ll get at the end, might just be worth it…

But as I was driving home, I thought to myself. “Does it really matter? Why on earth do we put make-up for?” Have you ever wondered?

Maybe it’s because:

1. We girls use make-up to beautify ourselves?

2. We girls want to look more attractive to guys?

3. We want to build our confidence?

4. To hide our flaws?

5. Make-up gives us more self-worth?

You know, I think it’s such a shame for girls to need make-up to validate them selves. Make-up does not increase ones self-worth nor does increase ones attractiveness. I am talking about attractiveness, not prettiness. No, I’m not saying it’s wrong. I’m just saying that sometimes we put make-up on for the wrong reason. If you are putting on make-up for your own self, because you like it, then it’s fine. But if you are doing it to make yourself more attractive to others, then you got to think twice about it.

I truly believe that beauty shines from within. Make-up does not beautify you. It just enhances the beauty that you already have. If a guy likes you, they should like you for who you are inside. Not just cause you look pretty with all the make-up on the outside. And if a guy wants you to put make-up for him all the time, then something must be wrong.

Personally, I’m a strong believer of natural beauty. I prefer not to have any make-up on, maybe cos I’m lazy *grins*. But that does not mean I don’t put make-up at all. Sometimes, when the occasion calls for it, or when I feel like it, the make-up goes on. And I use it because it makes me feel good and it gives me more confidence.

So to all the girls out there with the heavy make-up and stuff, remember that “True beauty comes from within”.

LovePieces against plastic Barbie doll wannabes :p

~es~

Some might say it would be stupid to give up your dream. A few years down the road, you’ll be old and time will run out. You will regret it and blame others for pulling you back.

Some might say, love ones first. They are the most important aspect of life. What is left behind will forever be gone.

What do you say?

Well, there is no right or wrong answer for it. If you would have asked me a few years ago, I would have said “Go for your dream! After all, you’ll only live once.” But I guess, it’s easier said then done. Would you be willing to give up everything just to go for your dream?? Or live a life or regrets that you’ll never achieve your dream?? Would you stop someone for achieving their dreams?? Or let them chase their dreams without you??

I really like the movie “UP”. It tells on how a young girl, who dreamt of something but never achieved it. Instead, she recreated her dream; with her love one. And she died a happy person.

Can dreams change? Can dreams be shared?

What would you have done?

~es~

~blue~

The Road Not Taken

by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

~es~

I guess all of us have that little tiny voice that always seem to appear at just the wrong time.

Take this friend of mine. She met this guy, had a few dates with him. He seems such a decent guy. A little bad boy, but just enough to make him interesting. He is not what she expected. She had fun and she wanted to see him more. But then,… a little tiny voice comes in.. And she starts thinking, “Am I making a Big mistake? Maybe I can get someone a little better? Maybe I can get someone a little richer? Maybe I have not consider all the options I have? Maybe, just maybe?”

So many maybes.. But I guess will never know if we don’t try. To just take risk when all odds are against it.. To just have the determination to defy all circumstances and at the end, come out victorious…

That’s what courage is about…

~es~

OH WAIT!!! Did you just hear a tiny little voice whispering ~~ Check out that awesome necklace~~ *winks*