Traditional vs. Modern

As I get older in age, one thing that’s always at the top of my mind is “Marriage”. Well, there’s not much that I could do to stop this thoughts. My friends are getting married and I’ve been receiving tons of invitations. There goes my salary this year My sister just got married. I pass by streets of wedding shops everyday to work. Every time I meet up with old friends and relatives, the questions that just seem to be the ‘in’ thing is “When are you getting married?”

Sigh…

Anyway, my biggest worry is not when, it’s how? Young people nowadays tend to be very modern and western-ish. But when it’s time to tie the knot, such a big hoo-ha occurs about having it the modern or the traditional way. One side of the family says 1 thing; the other says another, and not forgetting all the very interested relatives adding in a word or two. Well, you guess it right, most of the time, the couples who will be getting married are the ones caught in the middle, trying to please both parents, getting so stress out themselves and having to forgo the wedding they dreamt off.

Sad to say, all this have become such a reality. And sometimes it drags on after the wedding, and relationships gets strain.

Why?

Maybe it’s because the parents do not want their daughter to be marrying away so easily. Maybe they want to do what’s best for her. Maybe the groom family is not multi-millionaires. Maybe both sides do not want to give in so easier and want the best they can get out of this wedding. I really don’t know..

All I can say is leave the couple to decide what they want. It does not matter how many tables each sides get, or who gets invited, who does not, who collects the money, who pays for what, where will the dinner be held, how big is the hall, how much dowry is given, where will the honeymoon be, and this list goes on.

It does not matter if it’s carried out the traditional way or the more modern way. What matters most is that the couple is HAPPY. After all, they are the ones getting married, NOT YOU.

~es~

p.s. And if all else fails, there is always something call eloping *winks*. But i’m definitely not encouraging that. I’m a fairytale girl and I WANT A FAIRYTALE WEDDING :p