Things you should never say to your boyfriend..

After being in a relationship for a couple of years, I’ve learned a few things. I’m no expert but well, at least I have some experience. Even though we have an open, honest relationship, some things are just not meant to be said. So to all the girls out there, read and learn. Don’t repeat the same mistake…

Here is my list of “Things never to say to your boyfriend:

1. “You know, Annie’s pregnant… but you must promise never to tell it to anyone”

It’s going to be hard for him to remember what he can or cannot say. Not only is he carrying around the weight of all your secrets, he needs to remember your friend’s secret as well. Well, if he did spill the beans, you will get the blame from your friend, not him.

2. “After we get married….”

You might just scare him off. Most guys are afraid of commitments. Don’t ask me why, I still can’t figure it out yet. I guess it’s the animal instinct in them that if they get married, they lose out on maybe getting a better chick then you. But mind you, this is only applicable if you are new in a relationship. If you have been together for a long, long time and you are moving towards marriage, then it’s fine. But remember, if you wanna fantasize at the beginning of a relationship; keep those fantasies in your head.

3. “Do you think she’s pretty?

What do you think you will get by asking this question? If he says “yes,” you’ll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with “Is she prettier than me?” Talk about a loaded question!

If he says “no”, you’ll accuse him of being a liar. You’ll wonder what else he’s lying about, even as you assure him you don’t mind if he says “yes.” Pfff…as if you’re that insecure!

Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn’t find her attractive at all? You’ll wonder what his bad taste says about you.

See?

Either way, no one wins..

4. “I’m fine”

You know, I’ve used this word countless of time but I guess I’ve not a very good liar. He knows it from the look on my face. Maybe it’s the fact that I’ve not said a word or look at him for the past hour. But when your boyfriend asks if you’re okay and you say you’re fine; your boyfriend most probable wants to tear his hair out.

Be open. Be honest. Share and talk to each other. Hiding your frustrations will eventually create more problems.

5. “Are you sure you’re okay?”

(Repeatedly. Even after he’s told you he really is okay.)

Haha. I’ve also used this countless of time. Sometimes when your boyfriend gets quiet and does not talk to you, you’ll get worried. I know how it feels. And us being girls, we prod and probe, hoping to understand what the issue is. But in actual fact, there is no reason at all.

I realize that men can get emotional too. After all, they are also humans. They have their ups and downs to, their bad days and moodiness.

Get him space and time.

6. “I hate my thighs”

If he didn’t find you attractive, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.

Talking about how unattractive you are, or how you don’t like certain parts of your body will only make you looks insecure. We girls like men who have self-confidence. I’m sure men are attracted to self-confidence women too. Don’t draw his attention to all your flaws (even though we all know you have them). Instead, show why he was and still is attracted to you. Be sexy and stay sexy.

7. “Why are you friends with him?”

You might not like his friends, family, dog, business contacts. But you don’t have to hate them. Don’t be in a position where he has to keep defending them. Learn to get along with them and try to see things from his perspective. Try to understand why he likes or trust them. Trust his judgments. And whatever you do, don’t ever make him pick a side. You will lose out at the end.

I’ve said enough. To all the girls out there, good luck in your relationship :p

~es~

*small excerpts from Shine at Yahoo